Transform in(to) 2019

Happy Self-Love Sunday!
It’s that time of the year where the year is coming to an end and everyone is gushing about their expectations and changed behavior for 2019. And contrary to popular belief, there is nothing wrong with these discussions. The only problem is when you speak about something and don’t carry it into fruition, which can be the case when people begin to get busy with the hustle and bustle of life. But, let us make 2019 different. Let us carry out everything we said we would and not make excuses for why we didn’t, let us be transformed by the renewing of our mind in 2019.

When I was thinking about what to write for these upcoming weeks, the idea of transformation came into mind. And as I pondered on that word, I began to think about metamorphosis. I was specifically thinking about the metamorphosis of a caterpillar into a butterfly.  Because, in a way, I feel we all can relate to this process. Caterpillars aren’t as appealing to the eye as butterflies. And in order for the caterpillar to complete its stage in the life cycle it has to undergo some circumstances so the transformation into a butterfly can begin. However, the caterpillar is a key stage in the life cycle of a butterfly and without the caterpillar there is no butterfly.  Once the caterpillar grows completely, it enters the pupa stage where they form sort of a protective barrier around themselves as they undergo rapid change. And once this is complete, they can release themselves and fly free as the beautiful butterfly we all see.

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You may be wondering why I included the life cycle of a butterfly in this post, but I promise that was done with intention and I am about to break it down for you. Just as the caterpillar isn’t the prettiest creature, sometimes our lives are just as unappealing to us. However, this ugliness in our life is essential in aiding us in our transformation!  See, trials and tribulations are key components of our lives. If we never experienced any hardships, we wouldn’t have any motivation to get better for ourselves or loved ones, nor would we have any drive to protect ourselves, just as the caterpillar protects itself during transformation. Just as the caterpillar protects itself during transformation, it’s important for us to protect ourselves as well from any danger or ill will, in whatever shape or form these may take. But once we have endured and transformed, the result is something beautiful. The beauty is a combination of all the ugliness plus the hard work of change. Some may only see the beauty, but we know the struggle and pains that it took to get where we are. Is 2019 your year to transform like a butterfly, what’s holding you back?

As I reflect on 2018, I’m sort of indifferent about how I felt my year went. I experienced some hardships and lots of ugly moments. Yet, I am thankful for everything. Because if I didn’t feel the way I felt at times, I wouldn’t have gained this insight or mindset to come to you all with this piece of writing. I don’t think 2018 was one of my best years, but it was filled with tons of blessings and lots and lots of love. I have no idea what 2019 has to hold for me. But I am entering into this year with a different mindset than I had when I entered 2018. I want to be better than I was in 2018, I want to transform so I can better fulfill my purpose and honestly, that is all that matters.

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Let 2019 be the year where we transform. Let our actions reflect what we have said with our words. Let it be the year where we learn to put ourselves and our own happiness first, sometimes. Let it be the year where we learn to use our hurt and pain as a motivator. Let 2019 be a year so much better than any other year we have experienced. And if we feel that this year is not going in a good direction, may we seek God, pray on it, and make an effort to make some sort of change. There’s a song that says, it’s a season of power & prosperity, well let 2019 be this year of bountiful blessings due to the transformation that has occurred because you changed the way you think and thus, behave.

I pray that you all will be ready to transform in 2019, because sometimes transformation occurs whether we like it or not. Nobody wants to be stuck as a caterpillar knowing they have the potential to become a butterfly. So this year, let go of all the things that are weighing you down and keeping you from going into the next stage of your life. You deserve all of the things that God has promised for you, and so do I.
I challenge you all to join me on my journey of transformation through the renewing of my mind. May God watch over us, guide us, and hold us accountable to conqueror everything we said we would this upcoming year. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Love J.A.

Recharge

Happy Self-Love Sunday!
I am backkkk. Sorry for being MIA for some weeks. Blogging is something that I’m beyond passionate about. But being a full-time, active college senior is no joke. I was torn between writing a blog just to say I’m being consistent every Sunday and with providing quality, heartfelt pieces. Therefore, quality over quantity won this battle. I just want y’all to know that I’m back with our regularly scheduled programming & I have some pieces lined up for you all.

I needed to recharge before I could post anything for you all. How many times do you get consumed with your life & become overwhelmed with all the things that seem to be going on? Do you ever feel like there is too much on your plate? Or as if you can’t do it all. Or do you just wish for some days where you can just lounge around, stress free. Well, maybe you need to take a step back and recharge yourself.

When our phone’s battery is low, a notification appears that notifies of this low battery mode. Because of this notification, we know that it’s time to put our phone on the charger. However, if we do not place our phone on the charger in a timely manner, it will die. Just like our phones, sometimes we need to be charged in order for us to gain more power on our battery, which is our level of energy that we use to complete tasks every day. See, I was running on a low battery for a good minute. And the battery was sufficient enough to get me from day-to-day. However, it wasn’t what I needed to complete any extra circular activities that really required effort from me, such as writing heartfelt blogs because my body and most importantly my mind were too tired and drained from all of my school related tasks. And when I received the low battery notification for my energy, I just kept moving instead of allowing myself to charge.

Trust me, I know all about being involved and fulfilling obligations. But, I also have learned that it’s important to take time for YOU. At the end of the day, the only person ensuring your own safety is you. You can go support all your friends, attend every event possible, but sooner than later, you have to allow yourself some time to rest. Maybe resting means missing out on one event or taking a lazy Saturday to yourself. Resting and recharging looks different from person to person. But I promise you it is a necessity! Without some R&R, you will burn yourself out, there is no doubt about that. And I am living proof. I would go to class, work, and events and whenever I got home, I would instantly touch my bed and sleep. I love supporting my friends and family, but I have to support myself as well and my need to recharge.

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You can still recharge, rest, AND conqueror your battles. You don’t want to be running off 5% battery life and trying to make life changing decisions. You want to be all together so that you can make the best possible decisions for your life when those moments come. And even though I love to be out and about, I also love my naps. For me, naps are a way for me to allow my brain to momentarily rest and awake rejuvenated and ready to conqueror what is waiting for me. Honestly, if I didn’t nap, I am quite sure I would be very, very grumpy and my decision-making would not always be the best. This Christmas break is also a chance for me to further recharge and get ready to tackle 2019 and all the things associated with that year for me, such as graduation and the whole after college life.

Self-care is a vital component of self-love. You have to take care of the self that you love! And that is why recharging is so key. As we embark on this holiday season & new year, you don’t want to be stuck with your old battery life and barely any motivation to complete any tasks. We all want to enter in the new year and accomplish our new hopes, dreams, and goals. And in order to even have a chance at doing so, we have to come recharged and ready to act! Recharging is a constant process, so take time to do so as often as needed. I challenge you all to actively recharge as you go throughout your life, sometimes you need to slow down & allow your body, mind, and soul some time to rest and recover from the various tolls of life!

Love J.A.