Happy self-love Sunday!

I have been so excited to write this blog. It’s pretty personal & has been really heavy on my heart since last Sunday. I’m really hoping that it will touch you all. And more than anything, I am hoping that it will encourage you to embrace those parts of ourselves that we don’t want others to know about, the parts where we feel we are lacking. But honestly, if you never share then you never know who else can relate to you or how you can. So I am being brave today and sharing.

Insecurities can make you feel less than, worth less and like you have no purpose. These feelings generated by insecurities can make you feel like you have to be someone else because others may appear happier than you. But you never know what others are going through & everything isn’t always as it seems. Just because someone may seem happy doesn’t mean that they truly are. I believe everyone has insecurities, even if they won’t admit to them, they are still there. And I am learning that it is so important to acknowledge your insecurities so you won’t let them have victory over you. Today, I am choosing victory over my insecurities, I am choosing to overcome them.

Honestly, I think one of the most painful emotional hardships a female (or honestly anyone) can endure is dealing with insecurities, especially overcoming those insecurities. I can personally attest that I have struggled with this and continue to struggle. But I think one of the most important aspects to overcome insecurities is to acknowledge them. Half of the battle is acknowledging our insecurities because honestly, who wants to think about their insecurities? We bury them so we don’t have to think about them and sometimes, we don’t even realize the things that bother us are insecurities.

These past couple of weeks I am have been doing a lot of soul-searching & self-reflection. I’m trying to live my best life by being my best self. And in this process, I have learned a lot about myself. One thing being that I have aspects about myself and how I handle situations that bother me and not until recently, I didn’t realize how these things related to insecurities of mine. I don’t want to pretend I am perfect, because I am so far from that. But I do know that I try to be strong for others, even though I have things bothering me and eating at my soul. And these insecurities are one of those things. I was bullied when I was younger and those insults still resonate with me to this day and have resulted in the manifestation of some insecurities. I have felt less than more than once along with a million other ways. But I also know that my insecurities are what make me human. And that I can overcome them and not let them have victory over my life.

These insecurities have bothered me in ways that I didn’t truly understand until now. I had to be real with myself and be real about what I felt insecure about. I’ve been talking to God about them and declaring my victory over them. Because I refuse to let insecurities control my life, like I have in the past. Even though I have insecurities and I can recognize this, they don’t define who I am. See, I am who I am in spite of my insecurities. They’re like voices in my head telling me what I can’t do, who I can’t be. But these insecurities have also served as motivation, allowing me to realize that I can turn every can’t into something I can and that those insecurities won’t have the final say about who I am and who I will grow into. We all fall short and we all feel insecure sometimes. However, we are NOT our shortcomings. They are just a part of our story and they deserve to be shared, not locked inside, so we can better ourselves and others. So today I am sharing.

I am writing this for the person who feels they are all alone. As if they are the only one dealing with insecurities. I am writing this for the person who has had their insecurities thrown in their face. I am writing this for the person who feels less than. I am writing this for everyone, because we all can relate. And I am writing this for me. Because I can’t keep my story locked inside & expect to help others. I refuse to let my insecurities hold me back anymore. Today, I challenge you to think about your insecurities (and yes I know this isn’t the most comfortable thing). In order to overcome them, you have to be real with yourself about what it is that makes you question things. Once you think about your insecurities, find a way to find peace with them, a way to declare victory over them. Begin your journey to overcome your insecurities, I’m beginning mine too and I promise we’re in this together.