Hello my lovely readers & Happy Self-Love Sunday!
I know it has been a while. I could list a million different reasons for my hiatus, but A LOT has been going on with me (which is no excuse). Like down in the dumps, needing some uplifting & motivation. So even in the midst of my busyness, I’ve been wanting to write, possibly could’ve wrote something if I made myself, however, my spirit wasn’t in it. And I don’t just want to write just to have something out there, my blogs mean a lot to me & I want them to be able to impact you all. But I am very thankful for this spirit of rejuvenation that the Lord has sent me. So I am most definitely back and better.

September is coming to a close and tomorrow marks the beginning of my favorite month, which also happens to be my birthday month, October. Therefore, I want to leave some burdens and bothers in September. I want October to be filled with lots of love, prosperity, and memorable times. And in order for me to let these burdens go, I have to be real, express how I feel, and let go of the feelings, and most importantly the things, I can not control. I must be able to withstand and/or recover quickly, I must be resilient.

Mentally, I have been so drained. Drained dealing with the constant thoughts and emotions running through my head. Thoughts of what if scenarios and situations I wish I could go back and change or thoughts of how I want things to currently go. But recently, I have been reminded to practice what I preach. And whenever I give advice to my friends, I tell them that I believe things happen for a reason. I believe that GOD orchestrates things to occur in our life for a reason, down to every little detail. So how can I reassure others that things happen for a reason, yet worry myself? Things won’t always end the way that I want them to and nothing is ever truly perfect. So, I am currently and actively practicing what I preach. I’m embracing the serenity prayer and knowing that God will provide. Knowing that the destination I have set my eyes on may not align with God’s destination for me and that what’s meant for me, will be for me. Minor setbacks for major comebacks.

It hurts to not be okay or feel like you’re living to your full potential. But you can’t have a rainbow without a little rain. Nobody is perfect and no one’s life is either. There will be low moments and there will be good times. We have to choose not to let these bad moments dictate our life or our potential. We must look at these moments as stepping-stones toward the bigger picture. We must see that we can’t be happy every moment of every single day. And that it’s okay to embrace our feelings. It’s okay to share how we feel, to let go of what we need to and keep pushing. Because how can you have a major comeback if you’ve never had a setback? And honestly, please introduce me to a person who has never struggled or had a setback in their life. Trust, I know how easy it can be to want to give up and throw the towel in BUT we are all conquerors and the joy that will be revealed to us once we overcome and endure is worth while.

Some people believe that in order for people to adequately love themselves or participate in self-love, that their lives or the lives of others must be exemplary and perfect. And I promise you, that is not the case. I believe that in those moments when we feel the lowest, those moments where we struggle and desperately seek guidance & peace, that we are able to truly appreciate who we are. Like I said, I have been drained and I have been doubting myself in every manner possible. However, I have also been able to appreciate who I am and the woman that I am becoming. I am not perfect, far from it actually. I have flaws and I have places where I need to improve. But I love the heart God blessed me with, I love my caring nature, I love my passion for writing, and so on. And if I hadn’t been so down and questioning myself, I wouldn’t have truly evaluated myself and recognized all the things I love about myself. It’s possible to love yourself even when you’re not 100% feeling like yourself, because then you’re able to see why you love who you are & appreciate yourself more.

Self-love is a journey, just like participating in a race. Some people like to rush to the finish line, while others like to take their time and are happy because they made it to the end, no matter how long it took. But see with races there will be setbacks. Some unforeseen obstacles can appear and throw you completely off track. But these obstacles don’t have to stop your journey, they shouldn’t stop your journey. Obstacles should make you reevaluate ways to conqueror them and whatever else may come your way. They should motivate you to keep going. Because after the setback is always a comeback. And I am currently conquering obstacles & coming back.