Happy Self-Love Sunday!
This is my first blog for the month of March and March is women’s history month.  Be sure to take time to appreciate the women in your life. And ladies, take time to appreciate yourselves! We are bold, we are trailblazers, and we are powerful beyond measure because we are women. This is our month, so celebrate how you see fit.

We are all powerful beyond, men and women alike. However, there’s a tiny voice in our heads that fill us with feelings of doubt. Sometimes, these feelings arise due to comparisons. We live in a day and age where it can become so easy to compare our lives to the lives of others. Often times, we subconsciously make comparisons of ourselves and don’t even realize this. Yet, we fail to realize that all that glitters isn’t always gold.

Why compare? Like I previously mentioned, sometimes comparison is a subconscious thing. No one wakes up saying, “I am going to compare myself to my best friend (or whoever) today.” Well, I hope that isn’t the case. When things aren’t going right or when it seems as if everything that could go wrong has, that’s when the spirit of comparison creeps its way into our lives. We start looking at other people’s lives and wonder “why do they have it so easy? He/she has it all and I’m stuck here…” And the list of comparisons goes on and on. Social media is a humongous enabler of comparisons. Social media is designed for people to interact with one another by means of sharing updates on their lives. But often times, people use social media to highlight the good things in their lives. You’re more likely going to see someone posting themselves on a vacation, rather than someone posting a failed grade. However, some people utilize social media to share their story in order to uplift others. They share the good and the bad. They don’t share so people can compare their lives or to give people the notion that if they imitate what they are saying then their life will be successful. They share these stories in order to convey that you are not alone. Nobody’s living their best life 24 hours, 7 days a week, and if they are, please point me to them!

We have to realize that we all are called to differently. Meaning that we all have different backgrounds, passions, lifestyles, etc. Every book does not look the same, nor does every book have the same story. So, why can’t we think of ourselves like books? Why can’t be unique and prosper in our way? Referencing back to social media, just because people post the happy moments of their lives does not mean that they are without trials and tribulations. We can never imagine what people had to endure in order to get to that happy moment in time that they captured and felt inclined to share. So, why compare yourself to what you see on social media when you aren’t aware of the full story? Just because it seems as if an individual has it made, does not mean that it doesn’t. And please keep in mind that I am not saying you can not be inspired by others, I am inspired by so many people. But there is a clear difference between inspiration and comparison.

We have to realize that we all unique and powerful in our own way. We all have our own stories. Just because you aren’t where you want to be right now, does not mean it won’t happen.  I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. What is meant for you will always be for you and there will never be any confusion OR need for comparison. Your friend may be living their best life right now, but who says you aren’t about to live your best life, too? Be yourself, because God created YOU. He didn’t create you to imitate or be a copy of anyone else. We are all unique and while we may share similarities or commonalities, our equations are not compatible in order to be compared. The answer to that equation will never exist.
“Your story is unique and so different, it is not worthy of comparison.”

Today, I challenge you to remember these words: no comparison. When you began to idolize over your friends, celebrities, or even strangers, remember you can’t compare. You are you and not those other people. There’s nothing wrong with being happy for them or using them as inspiration. But remember, great things can and will happen to you, too. Sometimes, you just have to be patient and listen to a calling higher than yourself. Remember, there is no need to compare when there is no comparison.