Happy Self-love Sunday my loves!

On Friday, March 6, Jhené Aiko released her album, Chilombo. I’ve had the album on repeat since it’s been released by the way. I would definitely recommend that you all give it a listen. Anyways, in an interview about the album, Jhené discusses that she utilized crystal alchemy sound bowls on each track of the album. This was to emphasize music healing and how the keys of the vibrational hum correlate to different chakras. This really resonated with me because we all listen to music for healing, intentionally or unintentionally. So today’s topic is entitled healing.

Webster defines healing as the process of making or becoming sound or healthy again. Meaning that something occurred and impacted someone in a way that requires healing to move forward. We have to heal from heartache/heartbreak, loss, damage, words, circumstances, experiences, and so much more. But how do we heal? How long does this take? What does it look like? Will we ever completely heal and move forward?

The questions mentioned above are all questions I’ve personally had regarding my healing process at different moments and during different healing circumstances. And honestly, the answer to all those questions varies. Healing varies from person to person. Healing also varies based on the situation one is trying to heal from. So unfortunately for us, there is no set answer. But what I can say is that healing is absolutely necessary and worth it. Don’t be discouraged if healing doesn’t happen on the timeline you planned for it to. That is not realistic nor is that how life works. When we get sick, we have to first recognize we are sick to allow ourselves to get better. We take medicine, we rest, and take care better care of our bodies so we can feel better again. Healing is so similar. First, we have to recognize that we need to heal. Then, take care of ourselves accordingly. The process just looks different for everyone because none of us are the same and we all experience hurt and pain in different ways.

We live in a fast moving world and some of us live fast paced lives. Therefore, we don’t always take the time needed to heal. We try to continue living like we did before, ignoring the pain that is weighing down our shoulders and mind. We try to move forward without acknowledging that we have been hurt in some kind of way and need to address this hurt. I’ve been guilty of this so that is why I’m saying it. Before my senior year of college, I experienced a hurt I never thought I would. And I attempted to address it, got impatient, and ignored it for months. I tried to keep moving like things were okay, like I was okay. But I was not okay and I did’t really address that until much later. Ignoring the healing I needed only prolonged my healing process. However, it also made me realize the importance of healing. Because healing was important for me to focus on myself again and all my dreams, goals, and my life.

Healing is for you and no one else. So don’t make it about anyone else but YOU. Be selfish with your healing process. Focus on you and your feelings and how you can move forward in a healthy manner. Focus on what you need so that you can heal, so that you can let go. Unfortunately, sometimes situations are just what they are. They end unexpectedly and now how we planned or wanted and life continues to move on. So we have to address this pain or loss we have felt and when the time is right, let it go. This is all a process but it is worth it for your own sanity and wellbeing.

Today, I challenge you all to heal. It can be easy or it can be complicated. Regardless of how that process looks for you, it is so worth it. It’ll allow you to give your all and be your best self moving forward, without being held down by past pain. So acknowledge what areas in your life require some healing and do what you need to begin that healing process. Have hope and faith because the rain won’t last always and healing is available to us all.